The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
What habits successful people follows in order to get the best results? What successful people know that an unsuccessful person doesn’t? What’s makes them so successful? What makes them motivated and what makes them so brave to face their fear? Answer to all these questions is written in the book “The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People“. written by Stephen R. Covey in 1989, is one of the best self-help books in the market.
In this book, the author has described that every successful person has some habits which made them successful in their life. Habits are the foundation of a successful lifestyle. so, what are habits? and how to acquire them?
Habits are those necessary things that have to be one in order to make you more productive, closer to your goals and finally living your dream life. No matter how much motivation videos or books we read, at some point, we lose that motivation and do exactly as we use to do before. Most of the people are habitual of living as they use to live in the past, and they can’t change it.
It’s not our fault. We, humans, are designed as such. It’s not easy to adapt to the new changes as we are living like this since our childhood. But always remember, we became what we do in our daily routine or simple language our daily habits determine our future. Find what habits you need to change in order to achieve your goal.
So here are the seven habits which will make you highly effective in life.
#1 Be proactive: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Imagine this, you are sitting in a restaurant with your family or friend and you see a cockroach on your legs. What will you do? Of course, you will try to get rid of the cockroach as soon as possible. Right? But in order to do so, you may panic a little bit. But let’s say that cockroach will fly and sit on someone’s else shoulder and you know what that guy will do. The same thing, he or she will panic. Now, the cockroach will fly and sit on a waiter. Instead of panicking waiter observes the behavior of cockroach and when he felt confident he grab that cockroach with his hand gets rid of it.
Now we can relate this story with the ‘proactive and reactive’ concept of the author. In the above story, the waiter was the proactive person who instead of reacting to the situation, he finds the solution to the problem and applied that. A reactive person is the one who will blame others for the problems they are facing e. g. blaming the government for not having good infrastructure, blaming their boss for giving better raise or blaming God for not having good fortune. A proactive person on the other side doesn’t blame others for their problems. They take full responsibility for their actions. They find positivity in every situation. they take actions and that’s how they build something good for themselves.
“Focus on the things you can change instead of those which you cannot”
#2 Begin with the end in mind:
Before you start working on your goals or dreams, you must have a clear picture of what exactly you want to achieve from this. For example, if you want to be rich then how much money exactly you want to have so that you call yourself rich and what you will be doing to stay rich. When you have a clear image in mind of what you want, it became easy to stay focused and motivated. You will not get distracted and your mind will not jump from one thing to another. Not many people have a clear image of what they want. That is the reason they are still in the phase of “one day I will do this or that”. Because without any doubt they want to d something big what they don’t have any clear image.
Let me give an example. Let says you want to make $1 million dollars in let say 2020. So, we have a clear image, right? Now next thing our mind will process how? To make @1 million in a year you need to make $83,333.33 per month or $2739.72 per day. Answer this to me is there anyone in this world who is making $2739.72 a day? The answer is thousands of people right. so you getting my point? With a clear image in mind, you can plan everything and you will be focused and motivated because now you know you can achieve your goal.
#3 Put first thing first:
After knowing that your end goal is to make $1million in one year. Now all you need to do is to plan accordingly. What could be your perfect plan for that? Its very simple. Plan your every day, each hour and even each second. we all distract ourselves with irrelative things. Like checking Instagram, Facebook or watching videos on youtube. Now it’s okay to take a break. It is proved that when our mind gets distracted only for five seconds it takes at least 40 minutes to get on track. And that is the reason why we are not able to grow in life.
So, if you seriously want to grow in life all you need to do is to complete the most important task first. After this, you can do whatever you have in mind like playing games or watching youtube or anything.
#4 Think win-win:
Imagine you and I have the same Instagram page. And I come to know about your page. Now, I got jealous and I will try to destroy your page by spamming or writing bad comments or doing bad publicity. So, what can happen in this process? I lost my valuable time, I could have done something valuable with my page which eventually will lead to the growth of my page. Right? Now imagine instead of doing all this, I want to ask you if we both can work side by side. Which will not only help my page but yours as well?
“Alone I can run fast but together we can go far”
Avoid scarcity mentality where one thinks only about himself. And develop an abundance mentality. Name any company in the world and you will find out there is a group of people who worked hard together to make that company grow.
#5 Seek first to understand and then to be understood:
let’s say you go to the mobile store and you ask the store owner that you need a smartphone with a good processor and ram but instead of listening to you he gave you his cell phone and start explaining why his cell phone is better. It’s not the phone you have in mind and you return him the phone by saying that this phone is not fit for you. But he kept on telling you the benefits and all the features.
What are the chances that you will go again to his shop or recommend his shop to someone? Well, never. We all do this every day, giving someone our opinion without even listening to his/her story entirely. Its say to say that no one understands me but have you ever tried to understand others. So, next time if someone came to you for an answer try to listen first, understand his feeling and then try to answer him or give him the solution.
As I explained the power of working together in the habit no 4 i.e. think win-win, working together as a team. This habit is very important. Two brains working in a team are better than working individually. Working together we all can achieve more. it is quite simple, two heads working on a task is better than one head. When two or more people together work on an idea, the outcome has many solutions instead of one.
If you observe any big company like Google, Facebook or Paypal and many more you will find one common pattern and that is they all are founded or created and run by a team, not as a single individual. The road to success is not a smooth highway and it’s better to travel that road with a bunch of people instead of sunning alone. Because you can run fast alone but together you and your team can go long.
“whole is greater than sum of its part”
#7 Sharpen the saw: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
one day a guy was trying to cut down a tree with a blunt ax. He was trying hard for an hour and now he was tired. A woodcutter came and suggested him to sharpen his ax first and then work on cutting. On this, the guy replied, “but it will take time”. This may sound stupid but this is what we all do. Trying to make things happen before even know how all this works. Most people don’t even work out for just 15 min to stay healthy. They don’t even read for 15 min to boost their knowledge and then they reply to why they don’t have good health or better knowledge.
This habit is all about improving yourself. We all have 24 hours in a day. But still why some of us have a better life, better health or happiness. The answer is how they utilize their time. Focus on yourself first. invest in yourself. Warren Buffett says that“The best investment you can make, is an investment is in yourself”. Invest in your knowledge, the more you learn the more you will earn.